My Friend

The guy who lives next door to me is really interested in having a garden and keeping it available. He was telling me about all the styles of plants and stuff he has in there and while I haven’t heard of most of them it’s the kind of thing where I think I will probably

Studying Karate

Martial arts have been something I want to learn, and I think that I am going to start training. I have gotten some good information recently about Tae Kwon Do and it seems like something I would enjoy. There are a few other styles I am interested in as well, but I will probably start

Crazy Ideas

When I am not running, or even while I am running, I will think about some of the different things I would like to try. One of those things is hang gliding. Seriously, how incredibly thrilling does that seem? It’s like you’re flying but there’s no engine and you’re just up there flying around and

I Watch A Lot Of House Hunting Shows

I like to look at homes that are for sale and for rent even when I have no intention of moving. I watch a lot of HGTV and even though I don’t know much about decorating or anything I still like to see how they decorate their homes. I like to watch House Hunters and

Relationship Drama

My girlfriend has been acting differently recently.  She seems to be getting super annoyed at just about everything which is pretty unlike her.  At first I didn’t mind and I figured she was just having a bad day or whatever, but it seems like it’s all the time now and it’s getting to the point

Snowboarding

I went snowboarding at Eldora today. It was the third time I’ve been, and second time this year. By the end of the day, I was pretty happy with how I was doing… Unlike the last couple times, I can actually turn decently now – without falling, even (well, most of the time). It’s a lot of fun now that I can do it with some small degree of skill. Monday, I’ll probably be going to Breckenridge for more practice. Then, Tuesday, I fly back to Japan. I might be going boarding there on the 4th, definitely on the 19th and 20th, and then again the 3rd through the 7th of February. By the end of this season, I should be pretty well addicted to boarding, and eagerly anticipating next season.

Now, it remains to be seen if I can actually get good enough to catch up to my friend Rob.

One More Try

I read this story a little bit ago and thought it was cool.  It reminded me of that British TV show (I forgot the name) where the ex-lovers meet up in the future when they’re older and build their relationship again:

 

I used to date him some 20-odd years ago. He asked me to marry him back then. I said no, partly because at the time he drank a lot and partly because I wanted my freedom and to explore the world.

20 years. Long time. He stayed true to himself, quit drinking, cleaned up his act and has 2 more years to go before he has his 35 years in as a mailman and can retire. He never got married. In those 20 years we kept in touch through letters, birthday cards and the occasional phone call.

In those 20 years I traveled abroad, continued my education, love, lost, melted down, and experienced the good, the bad and the ugly…more bad and ugly I should think.

I recently hooked up with him again last August. It was as if we had seen each other just 20 seconds ago and it was as comfortable as an old pair of slippers. We found we could trust one another, share our secrets, laugh our fool heads off and I smile and just feel so damned good when I am with him.

I went and stayed with him at his house for 2 weeks in September. He opened a drawer in his desk and every card and letter I had sent him for the past 20 years was in it. I was speechless and I also realized this man cares for me a lot. Since September he has called me every single day even though he lives over 1,800 miles away.

He came and stayed with me during the Holidays. It was wonderful.

He asked me to move in with him and I am going to throw caution to the wind, and, in April, at 52 years old,I’m going to pack up myself and my 4 cats and move 1,800 miles be with someone I adore and who adores me back.

If there is one thing I have learned in my time on this planet, nothing is certain and then I think, hey, I am 52, he’s 54, we know the score, I know he’ll take good care of me and I of him. I won’t have a caddy and a fur coat, but I will have a warm parka and reliable transportation with him. Most importantly, we both are aware of one another’s foibles and know there will be a period of adjustment. Moreover, we love one another…not the breathless love that one experiences when the world is viewed through rose-tinted glasses and life is very heady. However I think love can be quiet, strong, and companionable.

Giving up my lucrative job, my house, the ocean, and starting a new life at 52, landlocked with someone I love, scares me to death and I cannot figure out why.

The New Year

I made a New Year’s resolution this year to get my finances in order and so far I am doing ok. The first thing I did was check my credit report to make sure everything was ok there. They were as I didn’t see anything I wasn’t expecting to see. What I did see however was a boatload of credit card debt and that my friends was what I wanted to take care of this year.

I had three different cards and all of them were pretty much maxed out. I don’t have good credit to begin with so the totals weren’t extraordinary or anything. I don’t want to give a specific number but I will say that combined they were easily over 10k. Two of them had pretty high interest rates so the first order of business was to consolidate those two into one payment at a cheaper rate on a different card.

Once that was done I started to penny pinch on everything. I stopped eating out all the time which was a big money saver in itself. I also cancelled things like Netflix and my Sirius radio which I still miss to this day. I made myself a promise that once I’m debt free that is the first thing I will get back. It might be in two or three years but at least it is something to look forward to.  I canceled cable a long time ago (that was like $80 a month) but I don’t think I’ll be able to ever get rid of the internet; it’s a necessary expense.

That is pretty much all I have done and like I said so far it is working for me. I am paying way more on my cards than I ever was and slowly but surely they are starting to drop. I made out a payment schedule and if everything stays the same and I don’t have any big hiccups like my car breaking down or something I should be in the clear by early 2014.